Be INSPIRED

Follow along and read about how Ryan spent his final days surrounded by those he loved the most... his FAMILY.

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April 22, 2010

I wanted to let everyone know that a lot has happened in the past week. Ryan has not been doing well and we knew things were not looking good. At his appointment this week, we were told that more treatment is not an option at this point because his body is not recovering the way it needs to in order to receive more chemo.

So, we will be starting hospice today and the doctor is giving Ryan approximately 2 weeks.

Although we feel much sadness, we also have so much joy in our hearts with the knowledge that we have:

We KNOW that this is God's will and that Ryan will return to be with our Heavenly Father, free of pain and sickness... he will be whole again. We KNOW that because we were married and sealed together in God's holy house, that we will be a family, forever. We KNOW that the Lord will continue to provide the strength and comfort that we will need to get through this. We KNOW that God loves us and we are NOT alone.

"When thou are in tribulation, and all these things are come upon thee, even in the latter days, if thou turn to the Lord thy God, and shalt be obedient unto his voice; (For the Lord thy God is a merciful God; he will not forsake thee...)" Deuteronomy 4:30-31

Thank you all for the continued prayers, fasts and for all the love and support!

143 comments:

Shaylynn said...

You'll be in my prayers, even if I am nothing more than a perfect stranger.

Aubri said...

God will give you strength.

Hospice can be a blessing even though it's not something we always want to happen.

Love you Ry. May God bless you and your family.

LISA said...

You're entire CA family is praying for all of you! Life is hard when it slaps us in our face, but God is there to help us all through this. Be there as always for Ryan. We love you Ry!!!

Hoenes Family said...

You guys have always been in my prayers since I have known of your situation. I will continue to keep you in them, so that you might be able to be strong during this extremely difficult time.

Anonymous said...

This breaks my heart to hear this. Please know that you have been in our thoughts and prayers and that we have put your names in the temple every time we go. It has been many years since we have seen each other, but I love you both just the same. Ryan, you were such an example to me of how a young man should treat a daughter of God. Thank you for that and for all the fun we had together. I still remember you driving the pathfinder up the side of the mountain while we were on a double date and I about had a heart attack. You were in heaven. You loved your car and having fun, but you especially loved the girl sitting next to you. We love you guys

Kevin and Amanda (Moline) Hutchings

Anonymous said...

I know we saw each other last when we were kids but I mean it when I write on your FB page that I am praying (and fasting)for you guys. I can't help but to cry and wish I can do more. I know that the Lord is with you through this and will carry when you can't walk no more!! MARGIE STAY POSITIVE!!! xoxoxo, Tiff Tong

Visser Family said...

I know this is the most horrible news you could possibly get, but I am so grateful that you have the knowledge of the gospel in your lives to help you through this awful time. My prayers are with you and your family.

Jennie (Sanderson) Visser

Emily said...

To Ryan and his family,

I don't know you. I only heard about you from my sister in law Julie Johnson. But I have been praying for you since the day I found out about you. Please know that you are all in my prayers. Thank you for your example to me about how to live. Thank you for your courage and strength. Thank you!

love,
Emily Hunsaker

melissa said...

I will continue to keep your family in my heart and prayers. Ryan's name never leaves our temple roll here. You all have shown such great strength and faith as a family.

peter said...

Sure love you guys, Thank goodness for the temple and for a Heavenly Father who loves us enough to let us be together forever.

The Delgado's (all 9 of us) said...

We did sealings in the Temple Tuesday and we thought of you, Ryan and the kids. Margie, you are so amazing! You have been an incredible warrior and inspiration. Ryan, you are an amazing man!! I enjoy the stories Cortney tells me of the "Smoot Boys." You will always have a special place in our hearts. I can't wait for the joyous reunion of you and your family and all of us in the Celestial Kingdom of God. You have an incredible work to do. As the Savior has walked with you he will surely list you up to serve in his great work that only continues. I know he lives independent of any other person for I have seen him and I have heard the voice bearing record that he is God's Almighty son. I pray his peace that passeth all understanding will be with you, your family and all who love you at this difficult time!

Love,

The Delgado's

Amanda said...

Please please please let me know if there is anything I can do to help. Our thoughts and prayers are with you.

Camille said...

Love you all, our prayers are will you. Margie, I am here for you.

Camille

Jenni Johansen said...

We will continue to pray for you in this very difficult time. I am so sorry your family has to go through this. I wish it could be easier. You are very inspiring to many. You family will be together forever, what a blessing that is.

Anonymous said...

Margie and Ryan,

You have always been great examples to me, and I am so lucky to have known you. I think of your situation often and spread your story to many people. Hospice is a wonderful thing and I wish the best for your next two weeks spent together. You are in my prayers! Love you both,

Stephanie Hirschi Orr

kristin said...

Ryan and Margie and family, our prayers will continue to be with you. I also know that God loves each of you so much and will be there for you, as He has been.

Love to you all!

Kristin Keeley Clove

Kim said...

Your family is in our thoughts and prayers. We are heart broken for you guys. I am so thankful for eternal families!

Tita said...

We may be far in distance but together we remain in Christ Jesus. We are still our father's children & care deeply for you all. We love you & will always be here for you. Tita Rose

~Carolyn Beth said...

My heart breaks for you and your family. Please know that our thoughts and prayers are with you during this most difficult time. May the Lord lift you and bless you and your family.

Love,
Carolyn (Erickson) Gordon

Kristen Ann said...

Ryan, I've never met you, but your story and example have really meant a lot to me and reminded all of us what really matters most in this life. You have endured well. It will be a wonderful day when all of us are reunited with love ones!

Ryanne said...

Margie and Ryan. I'm in tears right now for you both and your family but can feel your faith and your testimony so much, that there is a sweetness beneath the tears. If there is Anything you need to make these next days together better please let us all know. I hope you have all the undivided time and love you could want. I wish we lived closer to you so we could be more help to you. We love you!

Us Willis' said...

Margie and Ryan,
You continue to be an example even through saddening news. We've prayed for you continually and I hope this is somehow the best two weeks, if not more, of your life. I'm so sorry, yet I too know how wonderful it will be for him to be healthy and strong again. You'll feel him when you need him most. My mom is always there when I need her and I'm grateful to know I'll see her again. I appreciate your strength in such a difficult time. We love you
andra

Judy said...

Although I do not know you personally, I have been receiving your updates because our mutual friend, Mindy Burns included me in the blog. My prayers are with you and your family as you walk this path. I am saddened for your family's temporary separation but am happy for you because of the knowledge that you have an eternal family. Sincerely, Judy Brown

Heather said...

Our love and prayers of peace are with you. Your family is the sweetest thing and the support and love you give to each other is wonderful.

Amy said...

As everyone else, we are so sorry for the sad news. Thank you so much for the positive attitude throughout this trial. We pray for you always, and will continue praying for a wonderful few weeks for you guys. We are so thankful for your friendship, Ryan and Margie, and for your wonderful example of faith.

Mandi Moon said...

I truly am grateful that I know Ryan. He is an amazing guy. You are lucky to be sealed to him! Such an amazing blessing that you two took advantage of.
I am truly in shock over this heart-breaking news. The love and support your family has in simply amazing!
My heart and thoughts are with all of you.
Love you Ryan!

Mandi Moon said...

I truly am grateful that I know Ryan. He is an amazing guy. You are lucky to be sealed to him! Such an amazing blessing that you two took advantage of.
I am truly in shock over this heart-breaking news. The love and support your family has in simply amazing!
My heart and thoughts are with all of you.
Love you Ryan!

Jeanette said...

Ryan and Margie,

My the Lord bless you with continual peace at this difficult time. Treasure every moment you have. You will continue to be in my thoughts and prayers.

The Collard Clan said...

All I can think to say is...I'm sooo sorry.
love you both - know that you are always in our thoughts and prayers. Families are forever! I once heard that we look upon leaving this life with sadness...assuming that our sun is setting, but really its not setting, its rising. where we will soon feel the warmth of a glorious dawn.

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TheTexasSpud said...

Margie and Ryan,
I have put your names on the temple prayer rolls everytime I have attended the temple. I have thought of you and Ryan often. I wanted you to know that. I have read these updates and have admired the courage you have shown in this battle. May the Lord bless you and your family in this time! Love, Spencer Smith

Miranda said...

I pray that Ryan will be here long enough to give everyone the time they need to deal with this. Margie, you have had peace during much of this tribulation. I pray that you'll find it now and be comforted by our Heavenly Father, as none of us can even imagine what this must feel like-He does. We love you!

Lynn said...

I know we all have to go through trials, yet some seem to have so much the harder. I think you both must have been very valiant spirits in the pre-existance and I'm sure you will be rewarded accordingly. May the Lord continue to bless you as your journey continues. We love you and are praying for you.
The Folsoms (Tanya's family)

Katelin said...

I almost don't want to leave a comment, because then maybe I could pretend this isn't really happening. I do want to show you my love, support, and total admiration for you, though. You are such rocks, and I know you will feel sacred experiences through all this. I also KNOW that families are forever, and there is such joy and peace in that knowledge--I know it will get you through. It already has. You've WON by growing in love for each other and by growing closer to the Savior through all of this--thank you for letting us all be a part of this. You're the BEST and always will be! We love you.

Carolynn said...

Thanks for your courage and strength through this battle. My thoughts and prayers will continue to be with you all during this time. You are an amazing example!

Carolynn Clement

The Clark's said...

Margie I have always admired what a positive attitude you had through this tribulation. You are an amazing strong women and your kids have followed in your righteous example. You're always in our prayers.

SmustysGirl said...

I have no words... I'm at a loss. we are so sorry for your family and know that this is not the news you had hoped for. I wish things could be different for you. I wish I had some inspiring words to say, but I'm just completely at a loss. You have been so brave, Margie. I know that Ryan will be made whole again and I know that you will too, on this earth. Stay close to the Lord, he will help to heal your heart from this loss. You will continue to be in our hearts and prayers.

-Dusty and Aleesha (Walker) Burgess

Erin said...

You don't know me, but it breaks my heart to see that happenings of late. How wonderful it is to know the eternal plan of our Father in heaven. What a great feeling to know that you will be together again someday!

I marvel at your family's strength throughout this terrible cancer that has come to your family. I have been praying for your and your family and will continue to do so. May God be with you in the weeks, months, and years ahead.

Your sister in the gospel,
Erin Perry

Emily said...

Dear Hess Family,
We love you and admire you. Reading this post breaks my heart but I also am inspired by your faith and your attitude. I am grateful to know you. You will continue to be in our thoughts and prayers. I also know that Heavenly Father will be with you during this time and that Ryan will be made whole. I can only imagine how you feel but want you to know that we are thinking of you and are always here for you! I wish I could give you all a hug!!

Love,
The VanYperens

Amanda Robertson said...

I found your website through a mutual friend. My husband has been battling cancer for 2 years. You guys are such an inspiration to me. You are so strong. My bad day got even worse when I read your post. I can't believe how strong you have and continue to be. I don't think I could be as strong. I will continue to pray for your family.

nikki said...

Your family has been such an inspiration to me, I am so grateful that you had this time together and that you have such a strong testimony of the eternal nature of families. You will be in my prayers.

Brian Bruner said...

How I wish I had a magic wand to make it all go away, but the Savior will be with you all through it all. We love and miss you all.

Tricia said...

Ryan may not remember me. I was in dance with his younger sister Jessica. Ever since I found your blog link on several friend's lists I have been following your story. You have been in our thoughts and prayers throughout this process and you will continue to be.

Tricia (Stauffer) Sloan

Hoopes Family said...

I am so so sorry to hear this news, words cannot express it. The courage and strength of your entire family amazes and inspires me, and so many others. What a brave and righteous wife you have, Ryan. And what wonderful kids you both have. Heavenly Father will take care of them, and He must have a great work for you to do on the other side. I know that you will be together again, forever, and this separation from eachother will seem like a small moment. I am praying for you all to be comforted, strenthened, and blessed beyond measure. Don't ever forget how much our Heavenly Father loves you all.

Camie Rae Coles said...

I love you guys. It has been an amazing journey to follow you through. The strength and courage your family has astounds me. My heart is breaking for you and I so wish that there was something I could do or say that would make it all better. But how blessed you are to have such a righteous marriage and the knowledge that families are forever. It's truly awesome. I am really so sorry and hope you know that you are always in our thoughts and prayers. I am so grateful to know you, Ryan, and now your amazing wife. Thank you for sharing your lives through this blog and know that you are loved more than you will ever know.

Lisa said...

Ryan and Family
What a blessing to be sealed together as a family, and to have the knowledge to know that this is not the end. You are in my prayers.
Lisa (Hunsaker) Linford

The Sartori's said...

My heart is breaking Margie. We aren't that far away, if you need us to help we'll drive down, I think it's only a couple of hours.

We offer our love and support for you, the kids and Ryan.

I'm inspired by your strength and testimony. You are an example.

Kim said...

We love you guys so much! Our prayers will continue to be with all of you. Thank you for inspiring us all to do and be a little better. What a comfort, that your family is an eternal one.

Anonymous said...

Margie and Ryan,

I cried when I read your last post and the weather matched my feelings as it started raining outside. Thank you for your faith and example. We're still praying for you.
Jani Hart

Erin S said...

We love you. You have constantly been in our thoughts and prayers and will continue to be.
I am so grateful that I was able to get to know Ryan when you were dating and even though I am sad for you right now, what a blessing it is that you were sealed in the temple.
We love you guys.

Sara said...

You have an amazing testimony. Thank you for sharing your trials with us. You are in our thoughts and prayers and we love you!

Love, The Storms Family

Emily K. said...

Ryan and family,
We will continue to pray for you. What a blessing the gospel is at this time. I feel for you, and all that you are going through, and I am so sorry. You have inspired me through your steadfast testimony, and example. God bless.
Emily (Hamblin) Klein

Luis said...

Isn't it great to know that families are forever? What a beautiful family you all are---cherish these moments! Wishing you all the best.

~Orrantias

BeeP said...

My thoughts and prayers are with you and your family. Let me add my testimony to yours that you WILL live together again where there is no pain and sorrow. Knowing that still does not make it easier though. Enjoy your precious time together. We love you.
Jennifer (Jones) Boyd

dougandcheryl said...

I am so sorry. It broke my heart reading this and I wish I could do something for you.
I know that what you said is true. It is such a blessing to have this knowledge.
Please know that you are all in our prayers and we love you.
Doug and Cheryl

Betsy Arthur said...

Margie, I'm so sorry for the pain and sadness that your family is going through. It's been a year since my dad passed away from colon cancer, but reading the blog brought back all of the feelings and memories. Forget all the frivolous day to day things, there will be time for that later. Spend your time with your family and Ryan and being with him. It really helped me to be with my family laughing and crying together and leaning on one another. Your family is my thoughts! -Betsy

Elizabeth said...

You are truly an amazing family. We will continue to pray for you! Thank you for sharing your thoughts and feelings through all of this ~ it has renewed our appreciation for each day spent with loved ones.
Love,
Elizabeth & Chris Latta

Head 2005 Inc.! said...

I can't express the depth of gratitude that I feel for the friendship that I shared with Ryan. You were one of the first friends I had after moving to Osmond and attending the fourth grade. Thank you for everything then and since! I'm so grateful for the knowledge we share of the atonement and eternities. I can not say anything more eloquent than what has already been shared/expressed. I hope you and your family can feel the loving arms of our Heavenly Father encircle you and keep you always! We love you Ryan!

Chevonne said...

I am so sorry for all your family has gone through. I wish you all a peaceful painless process full of love and togetherness. I have no idea how you do it, you're an amazing woman and he's obviously an amazingly strong man. You will all be in my thoughts. Although hospice will be very hard for observers I know that for my mom it was very peaceful, painless, and calming. It gave my family a few last treasured moments with her and I will never forget them. I hope you'll do the same. Love You.

Marlene K said...

"One of the great comforts of the gospel of Jesus Christ is our knowledge that this earthly existence is merely a twinkle in the eye of eternity" --Joseph B. Wirthlin
Ryan and Margie--your twinkle is bright and far reaching, and never ending--
Our prayers are with all of you. We love you, and have learned so much about love and testimony as you continue to remain strong through this huge trial. Huge blessings will come.
love Jim and Marlene Keeley

Laura said...

Tears are running down my cheeks as I read your post. I am amazed at your family's strength. I have learned a lot by reading your family's journey through this. We will continue to pray for you and your family. Hugs to you all.

Heather said...

Thank you guys for allowing us to be a part of this fight. Your continual strength will always be an inspiration to us! We love you guys and wish we could be there to give you all a big hug! We are glad you are finding comfort in the gospel and the eternal plan. We will continue to pray and fast for you all!

Love, the Taylors

Amber said...

Your family is SO amazing! I can't even imagine going through what you've already come through with such hope and optimism. You are in our hearts and prayers. I know you have so many people praying for you! May the Lord bless you with peace and comfort during this time.

Agnes said...

Margie and Ryan,
I can't tell you how blessed we feel to have you in our lives.We have learned so much from you both. You both have incredible strength and Faith. I loved reading the things you KNOW-- you WILL be a forever family and I know that too. God loves you all and it's true, you are NOT alone. Yesterday little Ezra included Ryan in his prayer as he blessed our food. He did so without our promting. More prayers than you know are said for your sweet family. We Love you SO much and we want you to know we will always be here for you.

Love always,
Agnes, Tim and Family

Katelin's family said...

"Now cracks a noble heart. Good night, sweet prince; and flights of angels sing thee to thy rest."

Jared Morton

French Family said...

I love you guys so much. What an amazing testimony you are to me and my family. I'll never forget our time in college, when I introduced you in BOM class. I feel so happy you had each other and loved each other this long. Margie, I love you! Please let me know if I can do anything for you!!

Stacey Mom said...

Ryan and Margie,

Thank you so much for letting me share this time with your family. My faith has grown while I have read your words of hope and faith. I have contemplated so many things and learned more of my Savior as I've read your blog and prayed for you. Ryan, I'm so thankful for your friendship. You and your family are in my prayers. I'm so grateful for the gospel; for your faithfulness and examples.

AlisaAllredStacey

Anonymous said...

Love your blog....love your faith and trust in the Lord!! though we dont know you...we will be praying for you and your cute family!! Your strength and happiness that you have shared is uplifting!!! wish you the best of luck!
<3 the Fishes
(Jared, Ruby, Joshie (3.5yrs))

Tejel said...

I am very touched by your blog and strength that you show. Hang in there -- god works in mysterious ways!

You and your family are in our prayers.

Mindy Burns said...

We love you both so much. You know that. Heavenly Father loves you even more, and for reasons only He knows, he has chosen the very strongest people He knows to go through this almost unbearable tragedy and pain. You are our friends forever, and we feel so blessed for that. Love, Brian and Mindy

Wendy said...

Oh Margie and Ryan.....what SADNESS! My heart is completely broken! Ty and I are both reading your latest entry, listening to the beautiful music and feeling SUCH HEAVINESS in our hearts! He keeps saying, "Oh, this is so sad!" He keeps asking many questions....questions that really don't have answers. The tears just won't stop. This mortal life really is painful and unpleasant at times. Please let Ryan know that many people down here in Florida are thinking of him and are praying for him and will continue to pray for him and your adorable family. You are my heros! Cherish every second that you have with him, Margie. This is your time. The Weisenburger's LOVE the Hess family.

The Kindle Family said...

Dear Hess Family,
You all are so incredibly special in the Lord's eyes as well as ours. We are grateful that you have been able to share your struggles with us, so hard to do at such times as these! You have been such an example of complete yet endless faith!
Your family will be so incredibly blessed for all the strength that you have shown past, present and will continue to show through all else that life has to offer.
We continue to hold your family close in our hearts and always in our prayers, and we know that Ryan's life has been nothing short of exemplary. Ryan and Margie, it was wonderful to be able to meet, and to now know, your lovely family in Kenosha, and we hope that you will continue to let us "know" of all the other happenings with you and your beautiful children in the future :) We love you all and have faith that everything happens for His reason and we know that your family will be together again.
With much love,
Matt, Melanie, Tyler and Aubrey Kindle

Shannon said...

Oh, Ryan, how you'll be missed. We just want you to know what a NICE and wonderful guy we think you are. We've been so fortunate to have you as a neighbor and friend. I will so miss our occasional chats after the girls got off the bus. You will forever be an inspiration to us. All our love.
Chad, Shannon, Zoey, and Riley

Heather said...

I feel so much sadness for your sweet family, and am so grateful for the opportunity to have followed your story. Thank you for helping my testimony grow. Thank you for your example of love and strength. Thank you for helping me remember each day is a precious gift.

Jacob & Amanda peters said...

I love you guys and I am always here for you if you ever need anything.I will continue to fast and pray for your family in this very difficult time. I know our father in heaven is with you to carry you through it all. You are all such an inspiration to me and the rest of the world to always have faith and be of good cheer as you have done for so long. take care XOXOXOXOXOXOXOXOX,

love the Abaroa-peters family

Tanya said...

What a joyful reunion Ryan will have with those loved ones who have passed before him. And even more joyful when your family will be reunited once again. Ryan has always been such an honorable man, with nothing but empathy and kind words,to be said about his fellowman. I have no doubt in my mind that Ryan will "Return Home With Honors".
We love your dear family, we have felt in our heart your faith and love in, and for the Savior. Press forward Margie and kids. Continue to let your light shine. You have touched so many lives with strength. You have truly found "Joy in your Journey". Lots of love!
Tanya

Lila said...

ryan and margie. you have exceeded the strength of anyone i know through this whole fight. your own words in this blog are bittersweet. thank you for inviting us on this journey although it seems to not be the outcome we have all prayed and fasted for. we will continue to support you, love you and pray for your family through what is next. thank you for sharing your hope and faith with us.
love, mike and lila stuteville (bennett's sister)

AngelinaMagdelina said...

We send our love at this difficult time.
The Rosses

Anonymous said...

Margie and Ryan,
Words can't express how much we love you guys. We continue to pray for you, our children pray for you, and we think about you and your family often. If you ever need anything please let us know. Your testimony and love of the gospel strengthens us through our daily lives. You will always have family in Missouri.

We love you,
Enrique, Danielle, Alex, Jessica

The Thomasons said...

The tears won't stop...and our hearts are heavy for you, but we know the same things you know, and that is what carries us when we need carried. So many people have prayed and fasted for you and your family. I know you will have added strength, courage, comfort and faith because of the faith filled prayer of all your family, friends, and strangers on your behalf. You guys are so loved and admired by so many. Thank you for sharing your journey with us...what a great example you guys are of faith in the Lord Jesus Christ and His plan. Little did I know back in the college days that I would learn so much from Ryan, his future wife, and his adorable and strong children. What a great legacy you are leaving Ryan. Your kids will remember your courage and faith. They are so lucky to have an amazing and faithful Mom too. We will continue to pray for you as we have. The Lord will bless you. Your family will have their own personal angel watching out for them...and you know he'll keep you safe while the veil separates you for a short time.

With Love,
Aaron and Lindsey Thomason

Seth and Julie said...

Okay, so I have clicked on comments like 50 times now and just can't figure out what to say.

It was so beautiful to hear the strength and the faith and the trust in the Lord in your voice this morning. In a strange way I walked away feeling peace and comfort and a stronger testimony than I have ever had about eternal families. I am so grateful to hear how Heavenly Father is bearing you up through this trial.

Ryan will be missed, so dearly missed! I was so grateful that the Harrises were here today because we were able to spend time reminiscing and reflecting on what a beautiful impact Ryan has made on the people who have been blessed to call him a friend, and even those who have never met him.

We love you, the prayers don't stop here and there will be late nights filled with laughter again, in a better place.

Big hugs and lots of prayers to Ryan, Margie, Hallie, Max and the rest of the Hess family.

The Donovans said...

Dear Ryan and Margie,
We are heartbroken to hear the sad news. We have been following your story and we have cried seeing all that you are enduring. You both have been an extreme inspiration to us and we are touched by your strength and faith. Thank you for sharing your story and for being an example to us.
We continue to pray for all of you through this difficult time.
Love,
Greg, Mari, Alaina,Sophia and Luke

Anonymous said...

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Kristy said...

I am sorry for the news. Margie, you are a strong woman, even if at times you might not feel like it, you at least give me and many others great strength. We cryed for you this morning when we found out things are not looking as good.

Thanks for your testimony.

We love you and Ryan and your family so much.

Kristy

SRA said...

I'm a "perfect stranger" who lives about five minutes from a temple...I will be putting your family on the roll next time I go (Monday). You all exemplify faith and trust so well. Blessings.

V and Co. said...

i am so sorry margie ryan and kids.

but i am so happy to know that he will be feeling so much better and watching over you with heavenly father.

we've never met in person, but i talk about you to my husband and i feel like we've been friends for a while.

please know that we are thinking of you and praying for you.

i wish i had much more eloquent words to say, but i don't so all i'll say is this.

i'm so grateful for the knowledge that we can be together forever. you as a family are a wonderful example and have given me many times the opportunity to thank my heavenly father that knowledge."

go team ryan. we're here if you need anything.
with much love, Vanessa

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A Baarz said...

Ryan and Margie,

Your strength has been amazing. I don't know why we have to go thru trials like this. I know that it has made you so strong. Please know that we continue to pray for you and that we are thinking of you. I know that the Savior will continue to bless your lives. Enjoy each waking minute. Thank you for allowing us the chance to follow your journey. I know that it has made me a stronger person. I am so thankful that we know there is something greater in life and believe in eternal families. My family sends it's love to you.

Aimee (Clement) Baarz Family

Keith said...

Ryan,

You truly are a great examle to me. Since the day I met you as you walked into the apartment to begin your service to Lord in Milwaukee, the times in between, and now, I cannot think of anyone who has had a more positive attitude. Having lost my son I learned that we cannot know the will of our Heavenly Father, but that the atonement truly does work. I felt the peace of knowing that our families are eternal and that this life is just a small part of the journey. I have faith that the Lord will do what is best for you and your family. In the end, you all belong to Him. If there is anything that I can do for you or your family, let me know.

I love you brother,

Keith Bangart

Steve Tanner said...

Ryan,

Thank you for your friendship and example. I've always looked up to you.

Lacey said...

Dear Ryan and Margie,
We love you both, it has been a priviledge to know you Ryan. Our prayers are with you. Thank you both for all the little lessons you have taught me this past year. I am in awe of your your strength and passion for life. You're family is amazing. We love you. May you continue to feel peace, love and happiness.

Lacey Wheeler and Family

Breanne BUsh said...

I can't stop thinking about you, Ryan, Max and Hallie. Your family has consumed my thoughts and prayers since yesterday. I love that you put I am a Child of God. There is a peace that comes from that song. You are an incredible person and I admire the wife, mother, and daughter of God you have become. I admire Ryan's remarkable amount of strength and courage. I love you guys and hope and pray that you can feel much peace at such a difficult time.
lots of hugs, prayers, and love is being sent your way.

Anonymous said...

I like so many others, am a stranger, who was introduced to your blog through my daughter Kylee Thompson. As I have followed your journey, I have wondered "why". However, as I read this latest heartbreaking news, I thought of the many, many people that you have impacted for good. People that you may never know, their lives will be forever changed, because of your constant love and trust in the Savior. Your faith has strengthened my faith. Your journey has not been in vain.

Stacie said...

We are so saddened to read your blog entry and pray, pray, pray you will be comforted. And to have some special time together as a family. Thank you for sharing of your strength, testimony and love through all this.

The england family

Spence and Tal England said...

Ryan, I have always looked up to you. I've always been impressed by your positive attitude and the kindness you show to everyone around you. My thoughts and prayers are with you and your family. We wish you all the best!

Spencer England & family

Taylor said...

You are such a beautiful family inside and out. I continue to pray for comfort, strength, and for your family to feel the love of all those whose hearts you each touch. I was reminiscing down in the laundry room last night all the times we crossed paths downstairs Margie and all our memories we shared together here in Kenosha. Ryan & Darin making snowmen, taking pics of you & Ryan under the newly fallen snow on the tree just outside our window...laughing, our kids playing..and just talking. I love you guys so much. I was filled with such sweet memories and tears with the trials you face together. I have hope and I have faith and I believe there is a plan for each of us. You all touch so many lives in ways you'll never know. Big hug.

Love,
Darin, Taylor, Jake & Samantha Thomas

jill said...

We love you Margie. And Ryan and kids. We feel so blessed to have followed your story and kept you in our prayers. Thank you for sharing your hearts and lives with us. You will all continue to be in our prayers. Always.

Kinsey said...

Ryan and Margie,
I love you. My heart aches to read the latest update. My thoughts and prayers are with you and your family! I admire your dear family and the faith and courage you have had and continue to have even during such a difficult time. Your example has influenced me more than you know! I always cherish our friendship Ryan. You have such a righteous family and I pray that you'll feel much of peace and comfort. Thank goodness for *ETERNAL* families!

Bethany said...

My friend, Jill, shared your story with me. As a stranger, all I can offer you is my prayer and my faith that you will feel Heavenly Father's hand in this difficult time of your life. May your burdens be made light through Him.

H said...

Wow. Ryan, you were my old FHE brother at BYU-I and I have always thought a lot of you. You were a great example and were always serving people around you. I have been following this blog and it brings me to tears everytime I visit b/c of the strength you have!!!! My prayers are w/ the Hess family. I feel so blessed to have known Ryan and that he touched my life for the better.
xoxoxoxo.
Heather Bonham

thanadabout said...

Ryan & Margie

I know that I only knew you guys for a few months before we moved. But your family has been in our hearts ever since then. I am amazed at the strength you have shown through this tribulation. I thank you for sharing your fight through the blog and keeping everyone up to date with Ryan's status.

I have had a few friends with cancer but no one ever really shared their experience like you have. The courage you shared through out this fight will never be forgotten.

It just breaks my heart to hear of Ryan's prognosis and what you are going through right now. I can't stop the tears from flowing. I will always remember you and your sweet family. We will continue to pray for you and hope that these last few days will be spent with the ones you love and that there will be peace.

Tell we meet again!

Love
The Thanadabout Family
(Lam, Rachel, Kylee, Keenan & Jayden)

Nuttall Family said...

How heartbreaking! I can't even begin to imagine what you're going through. We are truly blessed with the knowledge of eternal families. How much harder would it be thinking this would truly be the end! I'm in awe at your strength, Margie. Please let us know if you need anything. We're right around the corner.

Love,
The Nuttall's

Travis Rasmussen Family said...

Ryan,

You have been such a fighter and we are so proud of you. We will always cherish the memories we have of you and your family and our hearts break for you. We love you Hess Family.

Sincerely,

Travis, Beth, Caden, Tori, and Scott Rasmussen

The Petrini Post said...

Ryan and Margie,
I'm so sorry to hear the news and that things are not getting better, but what a blessing and comfort it must be that the separation will not be forever. Margie, it's been absolutely amazing to read your blog and to feel your strength and positive attitude even with such a difficult challenge that you all face. Stay strong, trust Heavenly Father in all things and someday, you will see that he knows best and that you have done everything he has asked you to do. You guys are amazing and I pray that your time together will be the most memorable and John and I will continue to pray for your family! Much love!

John and Melissa Petrini (BYU-I)

Kate said...

Although you do not know me, I have followed your journey because of a mutual friend, Mindy B. I know we are strangers and yet your blog has brought me to tears more than once. I am in awe at your strength and positive perspective. Thank you for sharing your journey and helping me to be a better person because of the way you have handled this trial. I pray for you and your darling family. Families are forever. ~Kate Smith

LISA said...

Margie I was remembering the Christmas we all got to spend together!! Ryan had made his "moose food" or whatever it was called. He said that was his family tradition. WELL, get the receipe and I promise to make it our tradition too! Let Ry know that this is big since I don't cook...LOL But really you have until Dec to get the recipe to me! RYAN WE LOVE YOU!!!
How lucky you guys are to have time to let each other know all the important stuff that we think we have forever to tell each other!!

Anonymous said...

I, too, found out about your blog through a mutual friend. I have followed it for several months now. I am also a young LDS mom. And I just keep thinking of your family and praying for you. Thank you for sharing your story and reminding us why every day we should cherish those we love.

Kade Smith said...

Thank you for your strong testimony.

Ryan you are a great man even if you did like to stink up the apartments with liver.

Margie, I don't know you, but thanks for keeping me up to date on things. Ryan and I were next door neighbors at our first year of college. We had a lot of fun and I know he is a spiritual guy who will be where we all want to after this life.

Shannon said...

Ryan, WHAT a wonderful surprise to see you today! And to give you a hug, and to tell you what a NICE guy you are, and to look in those blue eyes of yours and tell YOU I will miss you.
Shannon

Kay said...

Ryan & Margie,
Our prayers are with you and your family. Our hearts ache to somehow see you recover. Maybe it is the Lords will that you return to him now, yet I still hope. Your body is such a miracle, of Heavenly Fathers creation. After enduring through medicines most valiant effort, healing and/or relief will come from a gracious loving Father who knows what is best for his son. Have faith in his all knowing wisdom. Listen to the spirit and follow those promptings that surpass mans wisdom and knowledge. May his will be done. You have such a beautiful eternal family. Our prayers are with you, and I still hope..
Kay

Mike and Lisa said...

Ryan and Margie,

We love you guys. It breaks our hearts to read this news. But we know, as you do, that families are forever.
Thanks for your example and friendship. You have fought a good fight, and you have shown a lot of bravery and courage that has been an example to us all. We are so, so sad, but know that we are here for you, and we pray for your comfort and peace during this difficult time.
Mike and Lisa Gleue

Karen said...

I love you guys and have been praying for you and will continue to!! I know our Heavenly Father loves you!!!

Anonymous said...

Dear Ryan and Margie,
Marc and I haven't been able to get the two of you and Hallie and Max off of our minds for days now. You are amazing people and reading your blog is truly inspiring. We wish we could have done more throughout your journey from so far away. I am praying continually for you to have peace and comfort. Your family will always be in our prayers.

All our Love,
Starr and Marc Schroeder

Anonymous said...

You guys dont know me, but I just want to say:
Ryan, what a brave battle you have been fighting, you have done an amazing job, your testimony and knowledge of the gospel is amazing, families are for ever how lucky are we to know that... Know there are alot of individual praying for you, keep fighting the fight.
Margie-what a wonderful woman of god you are, you amaze me with all the strength and courage you have, not only for yourself but your children and your husband. I pray the spirit of the lord will be with you all as Ryan's spirit transitions into his new journey. and he is free from all sicknesses, and burdens of this earth. his spirit WILL live on..

Anonymous said...

I stumbled upon on your blog by accident and my heart and prayers goes out to you and your children. The anticipation of knowing that your husband, your best friend, the father of your children is soon to cross over to a much happier place, is very overwhelming. I know! I am a mother of 7 beautiful children and it will be 5 years since my husband, my best friend, the father of our beautiful children was called home. KNowing that we are sealed for time and eternity and that we will reunite once again, gives me comfort and peace though we do spend alot of time at the temple grounds for that peace. I wish I can tell you it will get easier, with children, the constant reminder weighs heavily upon you as a mom...i can only offer my love for you and your family and prayers of comfort ease the pain. Hold on to our FAITH and the testimony you have that Heavenly Father will help you!

Anonymous said...

Ryan and Margie,
I wanted to tell you what a great example you have been to me. I am fighting cancer also ( not nearly as bad as yours). You have been an inspiration to me. Thank you for your courage and beautiful life that you have shared.
Creers

vandi said...

I just wanted to let you both know that I have thought about you a lot since I've heard about everything and been following your journey on this blog. You two are amazing and I mean that with all that I am. You're lives have made a big difference for so many. They've made a big difference to mine: ) I can't imagine all you're experiencing and having to feel and deal with right now, but I've been praying so hard that amidst all this heartache that will you be able to have some special and sacred experiences that will lift you up and strengthen you in powerful ways. I really pray you will be carried and comforted. I know Heavenly Father loves you both so much and is right by your side. Know that this difficult experience has never been in vain, because you have helped people grow closer to their Savior through your life and your example. Thank you for sharing your life and journey with us. I'll always remember you and your courage to fight the good fight of faith.
love, vandi beus walker

Deb said...

Ryan and Margie, Not an hour goes by without you in our thoughts and prayers. We continue to pray for that miracle if it be His will. We know that Heavenly Father loves you and your precious family more than we can ever understand. Even though we don't understand his will for us, we can trust Him that he will always be with us to strengthen us and help us move ahead. We are reminded daily of His love and know that you are blessed with an assurance that he lives and that He will not forget you. We send the love of our family to you, Ryan and to you, Margie and to your sweet Hallie and Max. You will not be left comfortless, the Savior knows your pain and is there.
Love Always,
The Harris Family

RWSerr said...

Margie and Ryan,
We sure love you guys. What a blessing it is to have the gospel at times like this. Have faith Margie. I too know that the Lord will bless you and your family with peace and comfort. Ryan, thank you for your example to all of us through this experience. You are in our thoughts and prayers.

Love, The Serr Family

K'Lyn said...

WE are also praying for your comfort and peace and for you all to be able to have the strength to continue to make the most of the time you have together.

John + Jamie = A Delavan Family said...

Margie, you have been on my mind...just love you and Ryan so much. Sending you some Delavan love from WI.

Justin said...

Your blog brings me to tears every time I check it. Reading the news today was of course the worst, and my heart aches for you and your family. Know that our thoughts and prayers are with you, that you've inspired our lives, and made us cherish all we have. I hope the Lord stills your soul as you endure this grief and pain.

Justin Crook and family

Anonymous said...

Death is not extinguishing the light; it is putting out the lamp, because the dawn has come.
-Tagore

Kim said...

Sending love and prayers your way. I wish there was more I could do.

LaRon and jNae said...

My love and prayers are with your sweet family. You are a beautiful family and will be forever - eternally. Love, Jeannee Sager Stevens

Anonymous said...

Dear Margie,
I don’t know if you remember me, my daughter Kristin was on the Panda’s soccer team in San Jose with you and your dad Rick was the coach. I have been following your blog about Ryan’s illness. I don’t know Ryan, but I have followed his journey and I am so amazed at the strength of you both. I know this is so hard but your belief in the Lord and your continued trust is such an example to all of us. Your sweet family is so loved, I can so clearly see this. I will be praying that you will all be blessed in the time you have together. Blessing to you Margie!
Debbie Travis

Little Lovables said...

I only just found your blog today. Oh my goodness, my heart is so heavy for you.

I grew up with my father who had Leukemia and lost him several years ago, but even though it was awful, we really made some amazing memories and came together as a family, and he was able to touch so many lives, and that in itself is a blessing.

You will all be in my prayers.

Kandi said...

Hess Family,

You are in our thoughts daily and our prayers always.

Luv,
The Reeves Fam(Clint, Kandi & Isabella)

Mitchell Maddness said...

Your family has been in our prayers for months now. We pray the Lord will comfort you in this time of need.

Love,
The Mitchell family

Kim said...

Still praying! Love to you all.

Kristine said...

We love you guys - you have been an amazing example to us all! I can't tell you how much you have touched my life with your testimony . . . thank you!

Scuffham Family said...

Ryan & Margie,

We are sad to hear this. Your faith & endurance through this have been more than inspiring to us. We love your family very much. If there's anything we can do for you then please let us know.

We love you,
Susan, Jeremy & family

Shanell Wallentine said...

I ran into your blog yesterday and read it from start to finish. I am amazed at your strength and the firmness of your testimony in the Savior. I keep thinking about the quote about how the Lord compensates the faithful for every loss. Every tear shed will eventually be returned a hundredfold with tears of rejoicing. I'm so sorry for the extreme pain Ryan has had to endure! Our thoughts and prayers are with you all.

Erika, Kevin, and Mason said...

Since I heard this news I have thought about you every day. This saddens me so much. I wish for the best for everyone in the family.

Clint and Sarah Pickens said...

My sister is a friend of Ryan and has told me about this hard time your family is going through. My prayers are with you during this difficult part of life. Thank you for updating us on his condition. You are truly faithful and strong.
-Sarah Pickens

Devri said...

You have helped me grow my testimony, and I thank you for this. I too have had overwhelming saddness in the past 2 years and reading this has helped me. THank goodness we get to be with the ones we love again someday! THe road is long but the journey short, untill we meet again! I am praying for your comfort, for his, and your precious children. Bless you and your family.

The Bennetts said...

We know you only through my cousin, Tim Reynolds, but your story strengthens everyone. Elder Maxwell once taught that "accepting the Lord's will is also accepting His timeline" and you truly live that. Thank you for your strength, and I hope to meet you both someday.

mindy said...

I am a friend of Ryan's sister Jen out in California. I've been following your blog for a while and have prayed for you and your family so much over this past year. I'm am sad for what you and your little family are going through right now but am uplifted and inspired by your faith and strength. Hold on to the things you know are true and they will carry you. I am fasting for you guys today as I'm sure many people are. Please send love to Jen from all her friends in Moorpark. She is in all our thoughts as are you.

Anonymous said...

We also continue to pray multiple times day and night. Putting your names on the Oakland temple prayer roll and fasting for the Ryan Hess family is part of what we do! Our Father in heaven is interested in the little things in my life so I know that he is highly involved in the big and painful things too. With the music of I’m a Child of God playing I just heard in my mind the 4th verse:“I am a child of God. His promises are sure; Celestial glory shall be mine If I can but endure.” We are praying Margie that you will always recognize your many talents and have confidence in your abilities and that you will be able to endure with joy and gladness. Bless you, Bless you,
Melissa Hartung

Ryanne said...

I don't know if you are still reading the comments right now, but wanted to let you know that you are in our hearts. We put your names on the prayer roll Friday and fasted for you today. We hope you feel the sustaining influence of the Atonement right now. We love you guys!

Shaylyn said...

Your story has touched my heart even though we are total strangers. My family recently went through a similar situation. We found a great peace in the knowledge that this is not the end of our story, it is only the begining. I pray that your family will have peace in the knowledge of our Father's love.

Danielle said...

We think and pray for you and Ryan often. Please know that we have followed you through this process although behind the scenes. You have a beautiful testimony and you and Ryan will be together forever.